I see so many women struggling to find their passion in life, to find their true purpose.

What direction is your career going? Is it moving as you want it to? Or do you feel so out of alignment that you are desperately seeking more? Maybe you haven’t worked for years but now feel the need to get back into it, yet you are struggling to find exactly what the ‘it’ might be. And what does this have to do with fear?

A common human experience is to endure things that make them unhappy either until they snap and can’t take another moment or until they die.

How many people do you know who:

Wanted to get back to work but were too scared to try something new

Hated their jobs but worked a full career anyway.

Were miserable in their marriage but they stayed because it felt easier.

Tried and failed seemingly every year to change their body and health only to yo-yo and rebound.

These occurrences are more frequent than not. Sad but true and I’ve even experienced some of this myself. The underlying factor, though…the thing that stands between us and having a life we couldn’t love more is FEAR.

Fear of failure.

Or fear of success and what people will think of us then.

What about fear of rejection or judgement

Have you felt any of those fears? And what exactly is fear?

Fear is a feeling induced by perceived danger,

so in other words you are seeing these “non objects” as something that will be harmful to your being. Furthermore, fear causes a change in metabolic and organ functions which change your behavior so an example would be running away when you get a fright of sorts. Does this serve you in any way in your daily life? Probably not.

The trick to overcoming and pushing past fear is to create a level of excitement and motivation around the thing we’re afraid of.

Here’s a few steps that’ll help you do that:

Identify the fear and what’s causing it

Visualize how you DESIRE things to be

Embody the feelings you’ll actually experience when you reach those goals

Express gratitude for everything good in your life

Take a few deep breaths and continue visualizing things unfolding exactly as you wish

Once you’ve gone through this exercise – it can take a minute or an hour depending on the intensity of the fear – write down and take action on the top thing you can do RIGHT NOW to move toward creating that outcome?

Action and motivation are a perpetuating cycle that keep fear at bay.

I’d love for you to let me know what fears you are experiencing right now. In fact, comment below and let’s get opening up about what things are holding us back and keeping us from our truest potential. I love it when women can share and end up helping each other out! Together we can move further than ever.


Isilda Da Costa is a personal trainer and women’s fitness specialist who, if she isn’t at the gym training, is busy researching the most up to date information for growing those muscles. She has combined her love of everything healthy by being a health coach in her own health shop in Swaziland. Follow along on @izzy.healthandfitness

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