Your mindset can make or break you

A few weeks ago I spoke about stress

How it has become somewhat of a chronic disease in our communities. Well today I want to take this a step further and show how important your mindset can be.

Somehow, throughout our lives, we have been stuck in certain ‘programs’.

These programs can make us feel all sorts of ways, but more often than not it makes us feel less than. These programs affect our mindset. A program is a set of beliefs that you have become accustom to due to how you were raised, the things adults said and how you were treated. They can make us feel that we have fallen behind others and we are somehow deficient.

We tend to judge ourselves

because of this and end up falling deeper into the trap of not feeling enough. It is easy to put up a front, to make as if we have it all, and we can become inauthentic. This is a vicious cycle and is as complicated as it just sounded!

Have you ever felt like someone else has the upper hand? That there is no way you could measure up? Maybe you feel unworthy, in every situation, but who in the heck decided you were unworthy in the first place? Well your program did.

Your belief system that was ingrained in you from such an early age. Research shows that our belief systems are developed by the age of 7. Imagine that? Certain things are said and done that you may not even remember yet it becomes so much a part of who you are into adulthood.

In order to move past our stories

or our programs we need to, firstly, identify which ones are holding us back. We can then change our mindset by reprogramming our beliefs. What do you consistently tell yourself about yourself, and what do you say about life in general? This little voice in our heads can make or break our successes.

A perfect example, which I will be super vulnerable and share with you, would be my experience with bullying. I was bullied for so many years, made to not only feel like an outcast but to also feel worthless.

How did that translate into this later stage in life? Well I struggle to fit in with new groups of people and always feels like I am second best. My body even manifested this exact ‘self-loathing’ effect through an autoimmune disease. Make sense?

Just a reminder- WE CREATE OUR REALITY.

Yes, those things happened in the past, things were said that ingrained a certain belief system in our lives and possibly kept us held back. But at the end of the day, this is all an illusion and we decide what we want out of life.

It is extremely hard to lose weight if you keep telling yourself that you will just be overweight forever. Dig deep into your own unshakeable confidence, I promise you it is in there somewhere, but you have to be willing to let go of these beliefs.

Whatever we think about or focus on consistently becomes us and our lives.

Clear up these thoughts you have been having about yourself and your life and start to live to your fullest potential.

Transform your limiting stories, transform your life.


Isilda Da Costa is a personal trainer and women’s fitness specialist who, if she isn’t at the gym training, is busy researching the most up to date information for growing those muscles. She has combined her love of everything healthy by being a health coach in her own health shop in Swaziland. Follow along on @izzy.healthandfitness

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