When things fall apart

You know those days where it feels as though all your to do list for the month seems to have compounded into one day? When you have no idea how you got here, when things fall apart. You don’t know how many more issues or chores you can deal with in this moment?

Before you go on, stop right here and take a deep breath.

Everything is going to be okay, I promise you!

This blog post was inspired by the absolute chaos that my life has been in the last few weeks. When I look back it feels as though time has absolutely flown by and I can hardly recognize my achievements because I didn’t live in them long enough! It was onto the next, and next and next thing.

Can any of you relate to this?

In fact, I know you can because it seems to be the theme of life in this decade. Not only do you miss out on how far you have come, on celebrating your small wins. But also on just spending these precious moments with those closest to you who have your back through it all.

We are taught to always aim for the next goal, to never look back and to always keep moving forward no matter what.

Of course, there are parts of this I agree with, but not at the expense of actually living! Not that you get so busy that it all falls apart – so to speak.

When last have you had a moment where you were able to say to yourself, “wow this is what I am living for”, or “this is why I work so hard, for these moments”. If you were able to say that, were you also able to live in it for a while before having to march on full force again? This isn’t just about missing out on living, but it is also about the guilt that can surround us when we drop the ball on something.

Those days where you didn’t make it to the gym because you had to wake earlier to pack school meals. Perhaps you then hoped to do a run early afternoon, but then get called to an urgent meeting. In those moments, remind yourself why it is, that you do all that you do.

You want to remain a sane and healthy mom, you want to uphold your career but you also want to keep healthy and fit for yourself and your loved ones. Well sometimes something has got to give.

Unfortunately, we are not robots (or maybe fortunately) and guess what?

Doing less on those days is not a loss. It is a reminder that you are a fighter and tomorrow you will try again. You had other priorities that absolutely had to take over and these are not excuses. You are not giving up, you are just dusting off the crazy time and preparing to dominate again tomorrow – life wont fall apart.

Take time to notice how your life shifts and priorities waver through different stages.

You aren’t losing, I promise, you are just adjusting and finding new ways to make it all work. In fact, do you know what Super-Woman’s weakness is? Too much multitasking.

Have a break my loves, cut yourself some slack and get back on your horse to tackle the other things tomorrow


P.S Saturday’s event will be a reward to you for all your hard work 😉

Isilda Da Costa is a personal trainer and women’s fitness specialist who, if she isn’t at the gym training, is busy researching the most up to date information for growing those muscles. She has combined her love of everything healthy by being a health coach in her own health shop in Swaziland. Follow along on @izzy.healthandfitness

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